Understanding eating behaviours

Most children go through phases of being fussy or selective with food, especially in their early years. This is a normal part of development and often improves with time, reassurance, and gentle encouragement.

But for some children, eating becomes a daily struggle. You might notice they:

• only eat certain textures, colours, or brands
• refuse entire food groups
• are anxious or distressed at mealtimes
• are constantly grazing or food-seeking
• struggle with chewing or swallowing
• have strict rules or rituals around food

In neurodivergent children, these behaviours are often linked to sensory differences, anxiety, or the need for routine and predictability. This doesn’t always mean there’s something wrong, but it does mean they may benefit from a different approach.

Difference or disorder

Not every eating challenge is a sign of an eating disorder. Sometimes it’s part of how a child experiences the world. However, if eating is causing distress, impacting physical health, or making daily life harder, it’s important to seek further support.

Think about:

• is your child growing and maintaining weight?
• are they otherwise happy and active?
• is their eating pattern consistent with sensory needs or emotional wellbeing?
• is it getting worse or interfering with everyday life?