Choosing and connecting with friends

If your child doesn’t talk about friends, it doesn’t mean they don’t have any. Quiet children may choose quiet friends and enjoy calm activities.

Children often go through phases of deep interest in a topic. You can use these interests to:

• build their confidence in talking
• help them connect with others who share the same passion

Online spaces can help children find friends with similar interests, but it’s important to:

• stay involved in their online friendships
• set clear rules about sharing personal information

Some children prefer their own company. If your child seems happy, they may not need a large group of friends.

Online friendships through gaming or shared interests can also be meaningful.

Finding safe and welcoming groups

Encourage your child to join groups that:

• welcome different people and celebrate differences
• do not expect everyone to look, act or think the same

Groups with strict rules about who can join may not be safe or supportive. Neurodivergent children may be more at risk of bullying, so it’s important to find inclusive spaces.

The role of friendships in growing up

As children grow older, friendships help with:

• building confidence
• exploring identity
• learning how to be independent

Friendships continue to be about fun and shared interests, but they also support emotional and social development.