Impulse control

Impulse control is the ability to stop and think before doing something. Children with poor impulse control might:

• interrupt others
• grab things without asking
• take physical risks without thinking
• say things that seem rude or hurtful

This doesn't mean they're being naughty or unkind. Many impulsive children are caring and sensitive, but their actions can sometimes seem aggressive or disruptive.

Children who struggle with impulse control often act or speak without thinking about the consequences. This is because their ability to self-regulate (manage their behaviour) is still developing.

It's not always a behaviour problem

Some children take longer to develop impulse control. For example, an 8 year old might behave more like a 5 year old in some situations. This is a normal part of growing up for many children.

Common signs of impulsivity

Impulsivity doesn't look the same in every child and can change as they grow. Children and young people with impulsivity might:

• do silly things to get attention
• have trouble following rules
• be aggressive toward others
• overreact to frustration or criticism
• want to have the first turn and the last word
• not understand how their behaviour affects others
• take more risks with things like driving, dating or alcohol

Struggling with impulsivity or any other behaviour challenge can impact how children feel about themselves. When children have more control over their actions, they feel more “mature” and have more positive self-esteem.