Understanding eating behaviours

Most children go through phases of being fussy or selective with food, especially in their early years. This is a normal part of development and often improves with time, reassurance, and gentle encouragement.

But for some children, eating becomes a daily struggle. You might notice they:

• only eat certain textures, colours, or brands
• refuse entire food groups
• are anxious or distressed at mealtimes
• are constantly grazing or food-seeking
• struggle with chewing or swallowing
• have strict rules or rituals around food

In neurodivergent children, these behaviours are often linked to sensory differences, anxiety, or the need for routine and predictability. This doesn’t always mean there’s something wrong, but it does mean they may benefit from a different approach.

Eating difference or disorder

Not every eating challenge is a sign of an eating disorder. Sometimes it’s part of how a child experiences the world. But if eating is causing distress, affecting physical health, or making daily life harder, it’s important to seek further support.

Think about if:

• growth and weight are being maintained
• your child is generally happy and active
• their eating patterns are consistent with sensory needs or emotional wellbeing
• eating issues are getting worse or interfering with daily life
• recovery from illness is slower than expected
• there are signs of nutritional deficiency - such as hair thinning, brittle or ridged nails, skin changes, constipation or diarrhoea

If major food groups are being excluded, speak to your GP or a dietitian. They can advise on whether supplementation is needed and help rule out avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID).